So why is it considered cute on newborns? Slumped over – Cute! Bald- Adorable! Chubby thighs- Delicious!
Can we try and be that forgiving to everyone else?
Obviously it must be the fact that newborns can make such interesting conversation, or are so considerate, and are so other directed! Is that what makes us willing to see them in such a positive light?!
How can we take that natural programming, that makes us overlook shortcomings in little ones, and bring it into the rest of our lives?
It is clear that Gd thinks we have that capacity. In this week’s Parsha alone, Gd directs us that we will receive dire consequences when we don’t serve Gd with simchas and a good heart. The point – —we have the ability to control our emotions.
Even though the world can be a dark and daunting place, and we have our personal challenges and pains, we are directed to see the good.
We are drawn to look at the sweet smile instead of the drooling mouth, to delight in the giggles rather than focus on the cries! And thanks to Pampers to dispose of the worst of it with ease!
So where does that leave us. We have the tools but not the training to use them. So this is a first how to lesson in positivity training.
And the first thing I can positively say is don’t get that excited, I don’t have all the answers!
But here we go….
Roll up your sleeves…. Unlock your tool chest and let’s proceed …
Things are not “awl” easy. They get to be “wrenching” at times. But what you need to “drill” into yourself and “hammer” home, is that you can ” nail” this. You need to be a “leveler”. To “file” away the sadness and “expand” and “electrify” the good aspects. Avoid falling into the “grip” of “vice”. And “bit” by “bit” you will see as others “saw” before you, that life can be seen with simcha and goodness. I’m just “ax”- ing you to take the first step and try!
Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com<mailto:rivki@rosenwalds.com