An Old Saga
…. Back in The Dog House Again …
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
You’re kidding?!
I’m back in the dog house?!
Sometimes we’re just destined to get it wrong.
Whether with our mates, our kids, our parents, our neighbors etc.…. Just fill in your personal blank.
It’s just a fact of life…, just as breathing is an inevitability of living- You are going to mess up in someone eyes.
And it’s usually not in your own!!!!!
Which is a major part of the problem!
Cause if you could just FREEZE – – and then see your part in it, no matter how big or small it is, you probably could avert the whole blow up.
Bottom line –
Getting upset with someone – really EASY!
Calming yourself, and them, down- a whole different story.
And not a sweet, little, fairy tale story, either!
More like a nightmare!
Unfortunately, we all have triggers, even though we avoid carrying any weapons.
We all have sensitivities, even though, we don’t need special products to alleviate them.
And, we all want our side understood, even though, we can’t seem to understand yours.
What’s a human to do?
We don’t want to stop having relationships. Because that’s the stuff interactions are made up of.
The best idea is – to work to do a little better all the time. To hone the discipline to stop yourself from going “there” as things are spiraling out of control, in order to see what’s going on from their point of view simultaneously to what you’re experiencing.
The second-best idea is -to order some new furniture for your dog house, just to make it a little more comfy for that next time you find yourself stuck in it.
Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
