Blame It On Something Else?!
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
It’s never really us.
I’m running late. It’s the traffic! It’s hard to say we didn’t figure out the timing right.
I ate too much. The food was too good. Not I’m weak on discipline.
The test was unfair. Not I didn’t study enough.
The book was taken out already. Not I should have reserved it.
That person took my dress. Not she got there first.
Well, what I say is it’s all true. It is someone else’s fault.
If there was no traffic, would be on time.
If there was no good food, we wouldn’t have eaten as much.
If no one else took out that book, it would still be there.
If the test was more about what I studied, I would’ve done well.
However, the bottom line is -this stuff happens.
So, the best we can do is either anticipate it, or recognize its reality.
I guess we do whatever works for us to live with it. If blaming it on something or someone else helps us accept it – then I guess that’s a benefit.
At the same time, since we can’t change the reality that other people exist, which certainly is a benefit in a million other ways, then figuring out how we can do better next time might be our best option.
Bottom line is, we’ve got to get through the daily challenges so figure out what works best for you, and enjoy each day as best as you can.
There’s an old song, blame it on the Bossa Nova. Do that if it helps. But if blame doesn’t move you forward just gets you stuck in upset…
Then up your game, and it will up your gain!
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals.
She is a Certified Relationship Counselor. She is a Co-Founder & Creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
