Find the Silver Lining
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
I’m ready for bed.
My eyes are closing.
I’m wiped!
Two weeks ago, I was energized and ready to keep going.
What happened?
Someone turned out the lights…
Outside!!!
Did you ever notice how that “clock change thing” really seems to work?
You look outside, the day seems to be coming to an end, and you’re suddenly dragging your feet.
But it’s only 5pm!!!
And where did they hide all that light, it doesn’t seem it was moved to the morning. Because, when you wake up in the AM to find it- It’s still quite dishearteningly dark out!!
They literally stretched the night out.
When does that ever happen that you want something to be larger, taller, more abundant, and just with a flip of a switch it occurs. These are usually the things fairy tales are made of!
Can that work with other things such as the money you’ve been saving? Or The guy you’ve been dating? Or the food that you’re serving?
How does that work that -poof -in one fell swoop the night stretches longer?!
As if Winter isn’t dreary enough? As fall ebbs you’re suddenly a walking clothing line for half your wardrobe. And with that you’re still usually freezing outside . Cause who really thought it was that cold before they got out?!
You’re not even getting out as much. The parks, the beach, the pools -so much is closed.
You need darkness to set in early on top of it, like a hole in the head?!
But wait, maybe we’re looking at this wrong.
Maybe, with no place to go and not so much to do, people want to feel tired earlier. Maybe, they want to cuddle up with a good book and a blanket a lot earlier. Maybe they want their kids feeling sluggish and going to bed much earlier?! I’d even venture that’s a definitely!
But-Maybe, when the air outside is starting to “freeze up” this way, it is a good season to play- the floor is lava! That is to say, a good time to get on the couch more, to snuggle up with your family more – to just slow down and appreciate quality time together more. Maybe just maybe there’s a plan at hand.
Seasons give time for different experiences. They cause us to do things differently and maybe that’s not so bad.
We may feel emotions that are “opposites” to what we think we’re ready for, but who knows?!
So- Maybe, it’s time to “warmly” embrace the “cold” to “energetically” embrace the “slower” pace, and to “light” heartedly accept the “dark”.
It’s always great to try and find the silver lining! And remember it’s always darkest before the dawn.
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals.
She is a Certified Relationship Counselor. She is a Co-Founder & Creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
