Is There WIGgle Room?
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
Wigs need to look like hair or otherwise one might as well go with the lovely scarf or sassy cap in their closet.
But, do you want it to look exactly like your own hair or a little wiglike? That depends on whether you want people to know that at least you’re covering your head?
Well sure, your own hair! Why not after all, most Rabbis seem to allow it!
Unless of course, you don’t like your hair.
Then you’re happy to choose a new look. Even a different color, cut, or style!
Sometimes I bet, too, you wish it weren’t so costly?
I think it helps if you think about it like an expensive piece of jewelry. Costly but worth it.
But then again, who’d stay so busy washing, straightening, and curling, their diamonds?! You stick it on and voila you sparkle! There is no perpetual care necessary. Perhaps just the cost of a safe?!
With a wig, if you don’t take special care of it, you could wind up walking around with a mop on your head. Sure, that’s useful if you’re upside down at home. But otherwise, it is certainly not a good use of your head.
And on top of that, no pun intended, if you don’t take good care of your own hair it could sabotage your whole look. Imagine if a strand slips out that is not colored or textured the same way, boom, the whole natural look goes down the drain.
That would be along with all the other hair that stuffs up your drains!
Then there’s the different styles to make it work for you in particular. Some people find they need bangs to give it the appearance that this is a real part of me. Others are totally enamored with the new nets. They make the hairline completely natural looking. It’s a real advance as long as you are gentle with your wigs. Otherwise, you may look like you have a fishnet stocking hanging down over your eye.
Care, care, care!
Where’s the wig that’s designed to be -done and you can run?
Well does anything really come without effort?!
Even the jewelry had to be earned somehow?!
So my suggestion is …. bite the bullet. And recognize that effort is the name of the game- whether dealing with rearing a child, to making it in life, to looking your best. Putting in the work is the name of the game.
We just can’t seem to ‘wig’gle out of this one!
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals.
She is a Certified Relationship Counselor. She is a Co-Founder & Creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
