That’s Pleasure ?!
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
First, you go in the hot tub. Then the hot room, then the steam room. How much hot do you want?!
You’re shvitzing, you’re melting, you’re dripping, you’re practically melting but you’re still not done. Globs of water are flying off you, and you’re at it again.
Then a quick plunge in the ice water. And the cycle starts once more.
What is the matter with you?
This is a vacation?!
Oh sure-instead, you can opt to relax …. on a table. Oy delicious!
First, you’re lying face down, ahhhh, with your face stuffed between some thick cloth, barely enough room to breathe, and staring straight at a boring floor. Then it starts to get better, someone is massaging your skin. Not bad -except it’s NOT only skin deep, like beauty. Suddenly, an elbow is jammed right through your shoulder blade all the way to your belly button. What in the world was that for? Supposedly, more relaxation. And it doesn’t end there- the abuse continues up and down your spine. And the rest of your limbs as well.
I know some people say they love it.
——Why?!
Ok, they may hold a lot of tension in their body. But can it seriously be pushed out the other end?!
Now, I know not everyone chooses the touted massage. Some just opt for a facial. Sounds so melodic. “Sure, I’ll have a relaxing facial”. Ffffaaaacccial. Flows gently off your lips. But, let me tell you what it’s really like- Going ten rounds in a ring with an opponent. You’re pulled, pushed, picked, and pounded. You walk out flowing and glowing. But that’s only because in the last five minutes of it you’re pampered, creamed, and lotion-ed to the max. And that kind of brings it all home. And you walk out relieved and renewed
Well to each his own!
Everyone has a right to get pleasure their own way.
The important thing though, is to find the pleasure in your life. To find what gives you a time out from the busy or stressful or overwhelming parts of your life.
You need it. And you deserve it. You are living -and that means you’re putting energy in. And when you put energy out to put energy in, you have a right to refill your tank.
And no one gets to tell you if you earned it. Once you feel you need a break -then you need a break!
Pleasure clearly comes in different forms, for different people.
Find what reenergizes you and go do it.
Don’t fret if it seems crazy to anyone else – if it works for you- it works for you!
And when you give yourself those needed breaks you can keep moving forward and thriving, on your level, at your speed, in your life!
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals. She is a Certified Relationship Counselor. She is a Co-Founder & Creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
