What a Headache!
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
There are headaches and then there are headaches. And I don’t use the term lightly.
Sometimes it means an unwelcome stress in your life. Something you definitely want to get rid of. You call it -A real headache! Absolutely painful. And not necessarily simple to resolve. But, thankfully not physically connected to you.
Then there’s the slight to throbbing ones. The ones that are certainly located inside your head. Yet, usually anything from a Tylenol to 4 Advils does the trick to send them packing.
But, then there’s the nightmarish one. The one that can show up anywhere in your body. The one that sneaks behind your eyes, or makes you nauseous, or just pounds the heck out of you.
This is the one it’s tough to escape.
Unless, of course, you’re one of those people who gets some kind of warning. Then you can, literally, stab yourself with a needle and happily push off the capture of your body.
If you miss that moment…. You’re a hostage. Relegated to a totally dark room, without a single sound, and stuck in a supine position, until it finally decides to go back to where it came from.
That selfish little culprit has a way of tiptoeing into your life without making a sound that’s noticeable in the outside world.
No one around you is given the opportunity to warn you that it’s on the war path. It leaves everyone defenseless. No one can get their shield and armor out and be your protecting hero.
And then is it kind enough to continue on the path it began remaining as quiet as it was when it snuck in?
Oh no – on entering your brain it comes crashing in with a drum role, complete with cymbals. Then it continues its symphony, albeit a private one solely dedicated to your head, till it’s good and ready to depart.
This headache named itself a mygrain. Because it’s yours alone -“my grain= my seed to grow”. Except your preference was never to nurture it at all!
“Mypain” would be a much more appropriate name for it.
But just the way it never asks you if you want it at all, it didn’t ask you what you want to call it.
It’s a selfish, self-centered, inconsiderate nuisance.
Here today, not necessarily even gone tomorrow.
It invites itself in but couldn’t care less when you’d like it to move out. It has no lease agreement, pays no rental fee , just comes as a total squatter.
I guess we’d prefer it stayed homeless. But how we feel about it doesn’t matter to it.
Bottom line is it’s an all-out attack of body and mind because having a migraine headache is a total headache.
Wishing all those who unfortunately get them a quick recovery and the discovery of a total cure soon.
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals.
She is a Certified Relationship Counselor. She is a Co-Founder & Creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivkirosenwald@gmail.com
