Where’d That Come From?
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS
SURPRISE!!!!
So -come on-tell us, were you surprised?
….“Absolutely -You bet!…..
You always have 25 cars parked outside of your house. And three of course, coincidently, with my HS sticker on them. And just 2 weeks before my wedding. Not to mention the 18 pairs of eyes I caught blinking conspicuously behind the shades as I walked up to the front of the house. -Yes, so surprised!”
Or
…. “Wow – crazy, I had no inkling that you’d all be here. I mean he just surprised me with a helicopter ride over a baseball stadium displaying a flashing scoreboard that asked me to marry him. Then speedily told me that I wanted to change into something nicer to go to my parent’s house. – No clue anything was up!”
Or
“….Of course I am surprised. After all turning, 21,30,40 ,50, 60( in other words 21 again and again) is always celebrated in some new chic out of the way refurbished warehouse.- Yes , yes, I really was convinced we were coming here to pick up a sofa, that we hadn’t ordered, have no room for and in a tie and suit no less! ”
So -What’s the obsession with surprising someone?
Life has its moments! And we want to make them just that little bit better.
There is so much we often have to get done or take part in, that shouldn’t we agree it’s nice when others make it happen for us.
And then too, there are times the unpredictable is not something we would want. So, isn’t it awesome when it is?
And we ultimately realize -Life is so full of surprises, that isn’t it empowering when we can take control of what, when, and how some show up.
Often – what is fascinating is how easy or hard it is to pull anything secretive off, just based on the different natures of the people we are trying to affect.
There are the types who never saw it coming: They just thought you bought a lot of food this week-6 sushi platters, 4 fruit displays, 2 birthday cakes… and also, gullibly believed that the catering truck just happened to run out of gas in your driveway.
And then there’s the other extreme who declare, within seconds of any minute sense of change, – “Okay what’s going on here?! “They simply notice everything, even if you sneeze differently.
Planning around these 2 types is a whole different experience. With one you can almost ask them to email out the evites and they don’t skip a beat, while with the other you have to make sure they are out of town just to plan to plan anything.
But either way, if you can pull it off, for those who love a surprise, and even for recipients who say they’re not such a surprise person, it’s a pretty commendable gesture. The desire and effort to make someone else’s life just that much more exciting and special deserves some applause.
So surprise yourself—Give yourself credit for caring enough to make another feel important. And surprise them right back by appreciating and celebrating the effort.
Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com
